Difficult question, isn’t it? What can a human being possibly control? Are we really in control of our lives, thoughts, hearts, wishes, feelings, emotions, etc.? What about external factors?
Since times out of mind, there was a highly accepted belief that humans, by means of rituals, were able to manipulate and induce changes in weather: the Native American Indians, the ancient Indians, the Finnish, the Greek, the Scottish and many other peoples were said to have the knowledge and power to alter the weather: bringing rain, clouds, storms, etc. If we take a close look at the Greek mythology we can see that it is abundant in such examples. Such ideas were perpetuated until our days, when scientists outdo each other in finding more or less plausible solutions on how to affect the weather. So the idea of control was highly praised and important to be achieved back than as nowadays also.
Yet, I do not want to talk about weather control. I leave this up to those who dedicated their entire lives in studying such phenomena. I want instead to tackle on that inner world that seems to have its own rules and will power. I think we all, at some point in our lives, would have wished to have the power to erase a recurrent thought, an emotion that makes us suffer or feel uneasy, or on the contrary, to find again that perfect state of inner equilibrium in which we were before being swept away by a wonderful news or change in our lives. Humans are strange beings who always want to walk on that middle path which leads them to neither of the extremes. For that to happen, we are fully aware of the fact that we need to be in control.
Can we really control our thoughts? Or is it as if one asked you to catch the wind and try to control it? Thoughts, emotions are like the wind. Once they are formed, they haunt us. On the contrary, we are left with the sensation that the harder we try to control them, the more they consume us. They become obsessive and recurrent, like a second voice that keeps popping up irrespective of what activities we are involved in. They simply will not go! But what if we stopped opposing them and let them flow and ‘talk’, ‘live’ them fully? By doing so, in time, they will lose their force and we will be able to attain that lost inner state of equilibrium. This is a form of control even if, at a first glance, it does not seem so. Non-opposition implies the fact that we do not give them more power than they already have and, thus, we get in full control over them and replace them slowly but steadily with the peaceful state of mind.
I know that one may easily say:
‘As far as I’m concerned that’s no control whatsoever. For me control means when, for example, my thoughts are “I want apples”, and I control them by saying “No, you’ll eat pineapples”, and that’s how it will be translated into facts: you’ll end up by eating pineapples. That’s control! Yet, this is a stupid example, because it’s easy to gain control over such simple things. But how can one control their stronger wishes, wishes that maybe by putting them into practice will harm you, will harm those around you, or on the contrary, by not putting them into practice, you’ll feel miserable even if you have got everything a normal being have ever wished to have in his or her life?’
My answer to that would be that all of the above statements are not cons against our capacity of controlling our thoughts, lives but rather simple statements that illustrate Fear: Fear that maybe we shall not be able to do it, that maybe the capacity of taking hold on our lives was not seeded in us. Fear is our number one enemy that withholds us from doing great things and that minimizes us as human beings. When Fear talks, everything in us turns out to be at Lilliputian dimensions, even our inmost reasonable thoughts of being worthwhile human beings capable of achieving greatness.
We have a dream but we are scared to death of fulfilling it? We can control that Fear. How? By taking the first step; than we shall have only one way to go: ahead, one step after another. Secondly, we have to learn how to detach ourselves from the small insignificant things, but for that to happen we have to stop comparing to others. You are you, never mind how the others walk on their paths! We have to find our own pace because we have well seeded inside the power to control where our steps will lead us. A little bit of faith and perseverance added to it would be like salt and pepper to the food. They will give us the taste of being the puppeteers and not the puppets in the hands of a merciless destiny. Yet, we have to be aware of one thing. This is a solitary road to take. We are alone in those woods. Nobody can accompany us there, so we would better learn not to be afraid of loneliness.
Think positive, replace by positive thoughts all those negative voices that you might hear now and then while walking on your path, arm yourself with patience, courage, faith, perseverance and most of all trust and love for you as a human being capable of great things, for your dream, for the others who do not deserve to be deprived of what you have to offer them and by doing so you have already learned to control your thoughts and implicitly your life. Therefore, there is no illusion on one’s capacity of taking a hold on his life.